The “group chat negativity loops” was something I’ve dealt with the past few months in certain leftist circles and for my own sake and growth, I had to remove myself from those spaces. While I am lonely, I’ve made more progress since leaving. I’m still dealing w/ “peer pressure to stay small” but also working towards unlearning that, but also honoring my accomplishments and moving in silence before my blessings are actualize. I know I’ll find my people who are dedicated to true shared healing (I’ve gotten close to a couple of those people!!) so it is possible 🫶🏾
I would love to know if you have any further advice in regards to someone whom I love, but tethers themselves to tik tok and complaints, and sees solutions as threats and refuses to engage within their own life to try and improve the truly difficult things they are facing. We've talked about therapy and other action taking steps before, but they never did it and now respond with defensive near aggression over what we can do about it? wonderful article, thank you for writing
Thank you so much for this piece, it's a reflection that I've had for a while and don't always know how to redirect. I also find this very common in some healing spaces (at least it's how they call themselves) or activists spaces where in order to continue the fight, they must relive their trauma together. That's something that I've found very confusing and one of the reasons I didn't connect with those spaces, even though I would agree on most of their values and assessment of systems of oppression.
It's been a long time now, thankfully, but been there, done that, got the t-shirt. It's interesting that a lot of office/work sitcoms are built around this. Decades ago, I worked in journalism, and this was very much the vibe: "Yeah, we work too much, have a limited social life, and we're underpaid, but we've got each other!"
This is awesome 😎 I’m sharing this with my YA kiddo who is learning to navigate the world out there.
The “group chat negativity loops” was something I’ve dealt with the past few months in certain leftist circles and for my own sake and growth, I had to remove myself from those spaces. While I am lonely, I’ve made more progress since leaving. I’m still dealing w/ “peer pressure to stay small” but also working towards unlearning that, but also honoring my accomplishments and moving in silence before my blessings are actualize. I know I’ll find my people who are dedicated to true shared healing (I’ve gotten close to a couple of those people!!) so it is possible 🫶🏾
I would love to know if you have any further advice in regards to someone whom I love, but tethers themselves to tik tok and complaints, and sees solutions as threats and refuses to engage within their own life to try and improve the truly difficult things they are facing. We've talked about therapy and other action taking steps before, but they never did it and now respond with defensive near aggression over what we can do about it? wonderful article, thank you for writing
Thank you so much for this piece, it's a reflection that I've had for a while and don't always know how to redirect. I also find this very common in some healing spaces (at least it's how they call themselves) or activists spaces where in order to continue the fight, they must relive their trauma together. That's something that I've found very confusing and one of the reasons I didn't connect with those spaces, even though I would agree on most of their values and assessment of systems of oppression.
It's been a long time now, thankfully, but been there, done that, got the t-shirt. It's interesting that a lot of office/work sitcoms are built around this. Decades ago, I worked in journalism, and this was very much the vibe: "Yeah, we work too much, have a limited social life, and we're underpaid, but we've got each other!"